GO TO!
In life there are some things that are necessary, not to
live, but to make life more livable…
Having a ‘go to’ place when you have reached the nadir of
misery and do not want to look the world in its face. A comfort hole as it were
which you can crawl into or a rabbit hole you can fall into like Alice and be
transported to a world far from the one you live in. Where you can for a while
lick your wounds, soothe that troubled mind, prop that fractured spirit and
then step out again ready to face the next curve ball…
A ‘go to’ person is an absolute necessity. And, no, it
cannot be you! There is something unsettling about a mind shouting silently at
you or talking aloud to oneself. Whether it is a friend, a spouse, a sibling, a
parent or your progeny – the criteria should be somebody who will not be
judgmental. There is nothing worse than pouring your heart out to another
person only to hear criticism in response. “Why did you?” “Why don’t you?” “You
should have, could have…. blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
How can anyone be so presumptuous in telling you how to
feel? Among the few things we can call our own the three most important are our
heart, our mind and our body. Nobody and I mean nobody can tell you how to
feel, how to think or how to look. These three choices equal freedom from the
tyranny of other people’s expectations and beliefs.
The last ‘go to’ is food. Whether it is chocolate which goes
straight to your thighs and hips, a glass of wine that goes straight to your
head or a tub of ice cream that fills you with self-loathing – there is nothing
wrong in seeking comfort in food.
I know, I know, all the health magazines
bludgeon us on the head for using food to blunt our emotions. By all means say
“No” to binge eating but when you hit rock bottom, pray tell me, is it a carrot
that you will reach for or a piece of chocolate? Go ahead and eat what you
want. We punish ourselves enough without the external manipulation of guilt.
‘Go to’ whatever makes you feel good, less lonely and
miserable and reaffirms your faith in life….
Nimmou Nilakantan
1 comment:
You have put in simple words what millions are troubled about but are unable to deal with.Brilliant! I wish this blog gets a wide coverage, for the comfort that it will give.
May I add, if all else fails, : Go to God , He meets all your specifications!
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